Other people are great, right? (Well, they can be!) But we don’t necessarily want to be in a position where we really need other people in order to live our lives or feel good about ourselves. This is why you should work on improving your feelings be independent. We’ve got five tips for you if you feel you want to improve in this area.
Accept and believe in yourself
If you want to feel more independent, then you have to be better able to rely on yourself. And if you’re riddled with self-doubts, then that’s going to be difficult to achieve. This is precisely what leads a lot of people to being codependent. While you should work to change things about yourself if you really feel you need to (and if it’s possible), you shouldn’t beat yourself up about what you perceive to be your flaws. The less acceptance you have of yourself, and the less belief you have in yourself, the more you’re going to second-guess every decision you make.
So why exactly do you want to be more independent? For a lot of people, it’s simply about self-esteem. But being more independent makes it much easier to achieve your own goals. After all, everyone around you might care about your success, but they also have their own goals to worry about. So have a think about your goals; think about where you want to be a few years from now and get yourself motivated.
Get out there
A big problem among those who don’t feel that independent is that venturing to pastures new seems like an impossible ask unless they’re with friends or family. Of course, one of the best ways of tackling this is to simply get out there and go on a solo adventure. Doing this is nowhere near as daunting as you might think, and you’ll walk away from the experience feeling much more independent.
Challenge your assumptions
A lot of people who don’t feel independent tend to get their information from their friends. They get themselves into a social bubble that works almost like an echo chamber; everyone’s views seems to reinforce everyone else’s. If you want to feel more confident about your ability to grasp the world on your own, then get studying. Read up on the world – read different news sources, check out some books on politics, that sort of thing. Make sure you’re looking at material that might challenge what you already think – having your views challenged is actually a great way to boost your confidence and your ability to hold your own in conversation.
Perhaps the biggest thing that prevents feelings of independence, particularly among many young people, is a lack of money. Being financially independent is possibly the most important goal on this list; when you have your own resources on which to rely, then you’re much less likely to need other people to prop you up. It will also boost your self-confidence, as well as help you build a more secure future. So get to it!