Mother’s Day Reflections And Regrets ~ A day to remember and reflect upon memories and moments that make being a mother such a rewarding role.
First of all I want to say Happy Mother’s Day to all of my readers. I see Mother’s Day as a ‘pay it forward’ kind of day. It is a day where all of the daughters say thank you to their mothers, and their mothers say thank you to their mothers and the forward thank yous continue… It is also a time to reflect and remember the memories. ….
I am a daughter. Unfortunately I lost my mother nine years ago to cancer. So for me it is a time of reflecting and capturing memories of a mother who was extremely talented. She was a talented seamstress and a perpetual cook. She sewed all of my clothes when I was a little girl. If she wasn’t at the sewing machine sewing or creating some sort of handicraft she was in the kitchen cooking healthy home cooked meals. I have to thank my mother for teaching me and passing on the knowledge and passion I have for sewing, crafting and cooking. She would have been 86 years and she paid forward so many skills, talents and know-hows that I have today.
I am a daughter-n-law. Fortunately my wonderful mother-n-law is still a part of my life. She also has taught me so many things. She taught me how to make jams and how to can all kinds of fruits. She sparked my passion for gardening. She had a massive flower and vegetable garden. A game we played every summer whenever we ate dinner together was to count the number of vegetables that came from the garden. She also taught me a lot of the organizing strategies. She has paid forward many skills, talents and know-hows that I have today and share on the blog. She is now 86 years old.
I am a mother. Fortunately I am blessed with two amazing daughters. Toni is 26 years old and is living in Australia studying to be a doctor. Brittany is 23 years old and just completed her undergraduate degree. She is now immersed in her present career and is thriving. I am so proud of both of them.
I love Mother’s Day not because it is a day where I am honoured, recognized and pampered. I love it because it is a day where I can reflect. I think about my role and my memories as a daughter and my role as a mother. I love reflecting on some of the special times and memories created with my children. I have saved many of the precious handmade gifts I received from both of my daughters.
I have a decorated hatbox I received many years ago as a gift filled with baby items when my oldest daughter was born. It is where I keep the lovely mementoes I have received over the years made my by daughters when they were young children. Each gift, each card, each hand scrawled note are so cherished.
It is also interesting that when I look at past Mother Days’ it is not the gifts that I remember most. Rather it is the time I spent with my family and the activities we did together. There were many Mother’s days’ that the family took me to my favourite museum and a favourite restaurant for brunch. We also had a wonderful time going to the zoo for the day and enjoying a lunch together. I most remember the time spent together and the memories created from those times. It is those memories that I reflect upon.
What are my reflections? I have to admit it is not the specifics. Rather it is the impressions that give me the most joy. I remember most my delightful daughters who were giddy with excitement to give me their handmade gift they made at school. I remember my daughters super excited to go with me to my favourite museum. I remember times spent with my daughters touring the zoo in the city. These memories are not because of what I received as a gift. These memories come from what we did together as a family. These memories come from the gift of time together.
I do have some regrets. I regret not having taken more photographs of my daughters and I as they were growing up and I was aging… or becoming more mature as a mother. I have kept the lovely gifts made by my daughters but I have to admit the memories are unclear as to when they made them for me. I wish I had my photograph taken with each daughter holding the Mother’s Day gift and the date recorded when it was given.
I also regret not recording or documenting each Mother’s Day activities, quotes and impressions. It would have been so much fun today to look back on my thoughts as a mother many years ago compared to my thoughts as a mother today.
I do have an excuse though. When my daughters were young Smart Phones, DSLR cameras, Facebook and the cloud did not exist. Photography was dependent on taking pictures with a 35mm camera and having them processed with negatives. The notion of sharing on line did not exist at all. Technology has made it so easy and so doable for documenting memories. I now am following through on my regrets and taking loads of pictures and recording my memories as a mother of two amazing daughters who are now pursuing their own education and career paths.
By the way I did go to the zoo with my younger daughter the other day. This gorgeous peacock roaming the grounds stopped long enough to pose for me so I could take this photograph.
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Mother’s Day Reflections And Regrets
So I need to apologize that today’s blog is not a typical DIY, recipe or organizing post. Instead it is a post about my reflections and my regrets about Mother’s Day. I want to leave you with a bit of advice based on my experience and the wisdom I gained from those experiences. Enjoy your Mother’s Day but also take the time to record through your photographs and through a written journal your reflections of each day you are recognized for the most important role you will in your life… the role of mother.
I would so love to learn about your Mother’s Day reflections and regrets. To the younger mothers… you are so fortunate that technology has made it is so easy for you to document and record your special times as a mother. To the more mature mothers of older children… what do you cherish the most about being a mother.
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Happy Mother’s Day!